Comments on: Is Divorce a Sin for Catholics?

By: Manya

Manya — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 16:20:45 +0000

Patrice (love your name!),
I still believe that “most” of the readers of this blog probably did not file for divorce. That’s not to say that those who DID file for divorce were in the wrong. I was speaking more to those who gave up on their marriages for selfish reasons (i.e they had an affair or simply grew tired of being a spouse and parent). That, clearly, does not describe you. Actually, technically speaking, I was the one who filed for divorce, too. Things reached a point where I felt it was necessary to file for a legal separation in order to protect myself and my children financially. My husband made the decision to change the legal separation into a divorce, however, my name stayed on file as being the one who requested it.

At any rate…. I apologize if you felt slighted..not at all my intention. There are many, many different stories & circumstances surrounding marriages and divorces, as you stated. Where each of us stands in relation to our faith is a private matter. The purpose of this blog is relatively simple – to let divorced Catholics know that they are still Catholic and to let them know they are not alone AND that they can and will get through this painful time. The details of what each of us has experienced, while they’ll be mentioned in part now and then when it makes sense to do so, for the most part will not be included in this blog.
Again..I apologize if I made you feel uncomfortable or upset.

God bless you and bring you peace,
Manya

By: Alexandrine

Alexandrine — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 16:51:19 +0000

Manya, I completely understood your original posts but thank you again for clarifying even further.

I would have stayed in my difficult marriage for the rest of my life. He left us. We’re are separated for years now. I’m sure a lot of other spouses participating with this site would have too. We may be separated or divorced but we are still Catholics. God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16)and so must we. I also teach this to my daughters.

A person who repents their sin, intends to live a new life of grace, and receives the Sacrament of Reconciliation will be forgiven of all their sins – including mortal sins. He wants to forgive us.

Thank you for displaying so much patience in your responses. I really appreciate this site.

A Separated Catholic Mother,

Alexandrine

By: Patrice

Patrice — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 09:27:26 +0000

Hi,
I’m not sure why you stated that most people visiting your site probably did not file for divorce. I am a divorced mother of 7 whose husband had been involved in a complex and immoral lifestyle for years–I had no idea. I was left alone with 7 kids, one profoundly handicapped child etc., while he was on business(supposedly). Half (or more) of my 17 yrs of mariage was spent like that– I was completely unaware and bearly hanging on with all his traveling and other issues. That is not a marriage. I filed for divorce and am seeking an annulment. I have been separated/divorced for 5 yrs and have not sought any male relationships. I still practice my faith as do my children, but his outside experiences were abusive and damaging and I had a right to request a divorce and hopefully an annulment. It’s important to use a broad lens when analyzing your audience which is filled with many ladies with unique circumstances.
Thanks,
Patrice

By: Manya

Manya — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:41:29 +0000

Karl,
I’m sorry for what you’ve experienced.

Manya

By: Karl

Karl — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 22:06:27 +0000

I disagree with you, but am not about to argue. May you be held to strict account for what you say and write.

I am a former catholic due to this “healing process”. I am facing hell upon my death because I do not believe the catholic church is in its right mind on this topic any longer. There is NOTHING you or any priest or another person can say that will change my impression from my “hell experience”.

Some of the most corrupted priests I know work at tribunals.