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Not to harp on this subject but I want to point out this tremendous resource again and to let you know that this radio show is now taking place on a weekly basis!

Yesterday’s show topic was about dating and intimacy after divorce. This is a HUGE “issue” for us…

  • Is dating okay after divorce and without having received a Declaration of Nullity?
  • Is dating okay during separation?
  • How about intimacy? The world tells us to be intimate with someone as soon as possible as a way of healing your hurt psyche and “get on with life.”

But IS that the best way to go?!

What about our faith?

Do I now have to be alone and celibate for the rest of my life???

But my spouse chose to throw our marriage away and divorce me…why should I be punished for that????

Yep…been there done that…and I didn’t have Lisa Duffy and Vince Frese of Divorced Catholic to help me to answer those tough questions…but YOU do!

Just click on the Blog Talk Radio box in the left column of this page and you can then click on the episode you’d like to listen to. And try to listen to the show live when you can so you can ask Lisa, Vince and their guests questions. Use this tremendous resource that is available to you…it’s truly a blessing.

May God bless and bring you peace.

Manya

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Jun
22

Journey of Hope Radio!!!

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Now THIS is exciting. I just found out about it and ran on over here to tell you.

We are pleased to announce the Journey of Hope Radio show on BlogTalkRadio.Com beginning Wednesday, June 30th, 2010 at 9:00AM EST!

There is a great need for an ongoing discussion regarding the challenges divorced Catholic men and women face, and through this program we hope to engage our distinguished guests and listeners in an informative and supportive conversation. Our goal is to provide you with accurate information and support as you deal with the process and aftermath of divorce.

Our first guest will be Fr. Thomas Williams, LC, back by popular demand from his appearance as Keynote Speaker at the Journey of Hope 2010 Conference last February. Fr. Thomas, Vince, and I will be eager to take your calls! The call-in number for the show is 1(347)989-1231.

Perhaps the best part about the show is that it is recorded, so if you are unable to listen live you can always visit our show page at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/journeyofhoperadio and listen to the recorded podcast!

We ask for your prayers for the success of the program and look forward to taking your calls on June 30th at 9:00am EST!

Sincerely,
Lisa Duffy, DivorcedCatholic.Org

Be sure to put this on your calendar and listen. It’s going to be good!  Actually, go to the blog talk radio link and you can have them send you a reminder in any of four different ways! Too cool.  Also, remember that if you can’t listen live, you can access the recording afterwards. :)

May God bless and bring you peace,
Manya

Now this is a breath of fresh air!

New Legislation Helps Minnesotans Reconcile Marriages

I hope and pray that more states follow….

Manya

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Recently I received a message from a woman who is Catholic but never received the sacrament of Confirmation. However, she’ll be receiving it soon. :)   She was in the process of deciding what name to choose for herself and was wondering if I knew a saint who is, or could be, the patron saint for a single mother.  Amazingly, I didn’t…  I mean, that’s kind of a ‘no brainer’ given the subject of this blog.  I even wrote a post quite a while ago about a possible patron saint for divorced, Catholic fathers…but never did one for us mothers!  So, thanks to her message, here we go. :)

I did a google search and found one that seems to fit SO well.  She’s also a very interesting woman.  I’d like to find a good book on her, so if you know of one, please don’t keep it to yourself!

The following is from AmericanCatholic.org….

St. Helen (249-329) found the True Cross in Jerusalem and, for many centuries, devotion to St. Helen has been linked to devotion to the Holy Cross. It would be hard to find a painting, statue or holy card of her that does not depict her embracing the cross.

But there is another, sadder facet of Helen’s life. After 22 years of marriage, Helen’s husband, Constantius, divorced her in order to make a politically advantageous marriage with a young woman who was a member of Rome’s imperial family.

Clearly, St. Helen would be a natural choice as patron of divorced and divorcing people, so why has this devotion to her arisen only recently? For most of the 1,700 years since Helen’s death, divorce was rare, even among non-Catholics. Among Catholics it was almost unthinkable. Today, unfortunately, when divorce has become commonplace, St. Helen is offered to unhappy spouses as a heavenly patron who can truly sympathize with their anguish.

Helen was also the mother of the Roman emperor, Constantine, who was the first Christian Roman emperor.  He is also a saint.

Well…who could be a more perfect patron saint for us?  Not only did she experience the horrors of divorce… then go on to be declared a saint… but she raised a son who has also been declared a saint!!  She sounds to me like she was an amazing woman in many respects.

I found a holy card that can be purchased from The Shrine of Our Lady of Czestochowa, which is in Pennsylvania.  The prayer on the card is also just perfect for us:

Holy and blessed Saint Helen,

with the anguish and devotion with which You sought the Cross of Christ,

I plead that You give me God’s grace to suffer in patience the labours of this life,

so that through them and through your intercession and protections,

I will be able to seek and carry the Cross, which God has placed on me,

so that I can serve Him in this life and enjoy His Glory ever after.  Amen

If you have any tidbits of information about St. Helen to share with us, please do!!

May God bless and bring you peace.

St. Helen, pray for us.

Manya

P.S.  The image of a statue of St. Helen shows an old woman because it’s believed that she was in her 80′s when she found the cross!  Can you imagine being in your 80′s back in the late 200′s!  Truly an amazing woman…

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(An important point…The novena of Divine Mercy leads up to the Feast of Divine Mercy.  They’re actually separate. It’s not necessary to pray the novena in order to celebrate & receive the blessings of the Feast of Divine Mercy. Of course, though, praying the novena is highly recommended!)

If you haven’t had a chance to read up on the story behind The Divine Mercy Novena and the blessings/promises attached to it and, also,  (more importantly) the celebration of the Feast of Mercy, let me tell you some important things…

First of all, the following (and so much more) was revealed to Sister Faustina Kowalska, who is now St. Faustina. Click on that link to learn more about her, the novena and Mercy Sunday.

The Feast of Mercy is the Sunday after Easter. Christ instituted this feast in order to offer each of us a fresh start…and what He has promised is truly stunning.  The following are the words He spoke to St. Faustina:

I want to grant a complete pardon to the souls that will go to Confession and receive Holy Communion on the Feast of My mercy.

Whoever approaches the Fountain of Life on this day will be granted complete forgiveness of sins and punishment.

If that didn’t fully sink in, read it again. COMPLETE forgiveness of sins AND punishment. That is huge!  (Of course, a complete and sincere confession needs to be made.)

It is not necessary to go to confession on the feast day itself. Actually we’re encouraged to go before this Sunday…even before Holy Week…so that there will not be an overwhelmingly
large number of people seeking confession on one day.

The Lord also insists that we be merciful ourselves!  Again, His words to St. Faustina:

Yes, the first Sunday after Easter is the Feast of Mercy, but there must also be acts of mercy…I demand from you deeds of mercy, which are to arise out of love for Me.  You are to show mercy to your neighbors always and everywhere. You must not shrink from this
or try to excuse or absolve yourself from it.

This may be the hardest part of this novena for those of us who have experienced or are experiencing divorce and the pains brought upon us and our children by our spouses!  It is NOT easy to forgive the one who vowed to love and remain faithful to you forever.  The one who is supposed to be your shelter from pain and troubles in your life.  The one who may have betrayed and hurt you in a way that NO other in this world is capable of.  Believe me, I know this.  It takes time and practice to be able to forgive your spouse for such things…and to be able to forgive the other person, IF there was another person involved in the destruction of your relationship.

God is asking, demanding actually, that we show mercy in exchange for His showing mercy to us.  That makes sense.  However, I think God will understand if you’re not able to completely forgive your spouse
just yet.  Simply start working on it with a genuine desire to be able to forgive him/her.  And, of course, show mercy in other areas of your life, too. AND, please don’t forget to show mercy to yourself!  Yes…sometimes we need to be able to forgive ourselves, too….sometimes more often than we’d care to admit.  Actually, in my experience, it wasn’t until I was able to fully acknowledge my part in the death of our relationship that I was able to really start forgiving my ex-husband – and myself.

So, here are all the steps to properly observing the Feast of Mercy: (taken from The Divine Mercy Message and Devotion)

1. Celebrate the Feast on the Sunday after Easter

2. Sincerely repent of all our sins;

3. Place our complete trust in Jesus;

4. Go to Confession, preferably before that Sunday;

5. Receive Holy Communion on the day of the Feast;

6. Venerate* the Image of The Divine Mercy;

7. Be merciful to others, through our actions, words, and prayers on their behalf.

*To venerate a sacred image or statue simply means to perform some act or make some gesture of deep religious respect toward it because of the person whom it represents.

Notice that in order to obtain the promises of Christ attached to celebrating The Feast of Mercy, it is NOT necessary to have participated in the novena.  So if you have not been praying the novena, please don’t let that stop you from celebrating this feast this coming Sunday.  Some parishes focus on this feast on Mercy Sunday…others (sadly) don’t even acknowledge it.  It’s not necessary for your parish to hold special celebrations in order for YOU to celebrate the feast.  Simply follow the 7 steps above on your own, individually.

God bless us all and bring us peace (and mercy!).

Manya

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Mar
09

Lisa Duffy – Gratitude

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I’d like to share another post, by another person, regarding something you can do to help yourself through this difficult time.  I found this on a site that I just discovered this morning – Phases of Womanhood.  I’ve only just skimmed the site, but was pleased to find Lisa Duffy of DivorcedCatholic.com there!  It seems she’s a regular contributor.

The post I want to share with you was written by Lisa and is about gratitude.  The message in this article is very similar to the message in my last post regarding anger, and how releasing it will help YOU.  In the same way, becoming very conscious of all that you have to be grateful for in your life…yes, even during this horrible time of separation and divorce…is healing.  I wrote a post a while back  along these lines – Blessings Can Be Found Through Separation & Divorce.

I’m going to keep myself from going on and on today and give you the link to Lisa’s article now. :)

Gratitude

May God bless you and bring you peace,

Manya

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